I was supposed to share a life update at one of my board meetings this morning. I had taken the time to write out exactly what I wanted to say. Because I wanted to be prepared to authentically share.  I never showed up.  My adrenaline (fight or flight) kicked in…

I try to give an abundance of grace in my conversations with clients. I believe we do not do that enough. We all need a little bit of grace! We need more people in this world who are not going to jump to conclusions- but rather work to fully and…

As a relationship coach, one of the first steps in the process of working with others and their various relationships is helping them to define what love truly is.  We have this notion that love is without conflict. If we are truly meant to be together, then we would never…

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” –Stephen R. Covey Years ago I had a terrible habit of starting books and not finishing them. I love to read – I can go to a bookstore and pick up way too…

“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.“-Oscar Wilde A popular therapy/coaching phrase that you may hear is to “sit with your feelings”. If you are anything like me, I had a weird visual of…

“New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings” Lau Tzu So begins a time of transition! You just have to stand outside and feel the change coming. The cool breeze under the warm sun, the electricity in the air as the warm front pushes the cold temperatures out, maybe sparking…

I am a huge fan of physical touch! I would do well in an Italian or Greek family!   A big hug in greeting or goodbye.  A sympathetic hand to hold.  An empathetic shoulder to rest on.   I believe in the power of touch!  Which is why I believe touch needs…

Your Circle “I do not wish to treat friends daintily but with the roughest courage. When they are real they are not glass threads or frost-work but the solidest thing we know” Ralph Waldo Emerson This past weekend, my dearest friend came to town for a much needed visit. I…

Narcissist  Gaslighting Toxic Manipulative  Sociopath These are really hot psychological terms right now.   If you have been in a bad relationship lately, I have no doubt that these words have been used as weapons to hurt and accuse during the midst of an intimate issue.   It can’t be denied that…

“Grief is like the ocean: it’s deep and dark and bigger than all of us. And pain is like a thief in the night. Quiet. Persistent. Unfair.” S. Wallace As the days get longer, it would be easy to leave some of the dark, hard emotional work behind us in…